Book Squad: Out of Control and Loving It! Week Three

A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends. Proverbs 16:28

This week we’re covering some pretty weighty topics: fear, anger, and gossip. I chose gossip as the topic for my blurb this week because I think it’s the one we’re the most permissive of. There’s a reason why the stereotype of old church “Biddies” sitting around drinking sweet tea and gossiping exists! I’ve been to a number of different churches through the years, and all have a group known for gossiping. Men tend to call it “shooting the breeze.” It’s the same thing.

Unfortunately, this isn’t a new problem. Gossip was such an issue in Solomon’s day that he mentions it in the book of Proverbs 6 times. That’s a lot, when you consider Proverbs is only 31 chapters long, and Solomon dedicates two large chunks to quarrelsome wives and godly wives!

I’d like to report that believer’s gossip problem is getting better…but it isn’t. We can, however, be the change we wish to see! In the video I’ll give the little tool I use to determine if I’m engaging in gossip, but I want to share another one here: THINK before you speak:

T – Is it true?

H – Is it helpful?

I – Is it inspiring?

N – Is it necessary?

K – Is it kind?

In my experience, if you can’t answer an unequivocal yes to the T, it’s probably gossip. Do everyone a favor and change the subject!

This is our last week together discussing this book, so I want to thank all of you for joining us! May God bless you as you continue the work of giving HIM control!

In Christ,


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